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Farm Newsletters

newsletter 2018We normally try to send out at least one newsletter per year to all of our landlords.  I enjoy making them up and from the feedback we have received they like them too!  This year I wanted to share in a few posts what we included with our blog readers.

Today you will read the first “article” I included on the front page of the newsletter.  We were inspired to share with our landlords how us, the farmers feel about our relationships with each of them.  As with any relationship communication is essential in building and retaining said relationships.

FARM LEGACY & RELATIONSHIPS 

We are lucky enough to have a variety of landlords that trust us to care for their land. Their legacy. We’d like to begin by saying THANK YOU!

Some of you grew up farming the land we now tend to. Others inherited from past generations. Whether you are familiar with the “ag-life” or aren’t at all, farming practices have changed and our operation probably doesn’t look like it used to or even the neighbor’s operation down the road.

That’s where communication is essential. We feel communication is key in any relationship but very important in the ones we hold with all of you. That is why we encourage you and hope you feel comfortable with visiting with us about agriculture and our operation. You are always welcome to actually come to the farm as well as call, email or text us.

Of course it’s a business arrangement but we hold our relationships with each of you on a high level. We have a connection with you and your legacy because we are able to serve you. We know that it’s not just about the all mighty dollar but also the chance to continue a legacy for both you and our family. It’s an honor to farm your ground and raise crops that feed the world at the same time.

Some of the land that we now farm, Milton’s father, Richard farmed for many years before us. Sitting around the dinner table at the last Landlord Appreciation dinner and listening to the stories of days gone by made us realize just how special the opportunity that lies before us really is.

Carrying on a farm legacy, generation after generation, can come in many forms. For example us, the farmer, planting the seed, tending to the crop, and harvesting it is one way. The other way is for your family to continue to invest in the asset that was given to you by generations before. This being done by allowing someone you trust to farm the ground. We do not take the trust you have given us for granted. We know that there are many farmers in the area/world that could farm the ground.

Building relationships and sustaining those relationships is something that we plan to work even harder at in the coming years. Whether it be via a chat at church on Sunday, hello at the grocery store, this annual newsletter or calendar showing us in action, or our favorite – dinner around our farm house table. We want you to know we see you as more than our landlord, more than who we write checks to each year. We see you as part of our family farm. Growing our legacy while keeping your legacy alive! That’s something we can both be proud of.

“ A farm is more than land and crops. It is a family’s HERITAGE and FUTURE.”

 

I hope you enjoy this post and feel encouraged to share it on your social media page.  Inspiring others to build relationships and sharing what farm life is about!  I highly encourage those of you that are farmers to consider doing a newsletter or annual calendar or even host a barbque for your landowners.  It’s been a joy for us to do these things!

Check back or follow our social media pages to see upcoming posts from our newsletter!

Thanks for stopping by!

Julie & Milton


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That Farm Wife That Doesn’t Get It

I’ve seen several posts on social media and blogs about farm wives and marriage and the experience of it. First,  I am so glad that they are out there and find them to be interesting and thought-provoking myself.  I’m a farm wife so I can relate to some of what they say and some not.

I also think being married is challenging enough but when you mix in farm life, the challenges seem to become ones of a daily grind that seem ever continuous year after year.

I suppose one could insert any form of occupation and marriage but unless you have lived the farm life, it really isn’t quite the same, in my own opinion.

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This was a happy day for this farm wife, but sometimes they are not so happy.

 

My thinking mind has me wondering about the farm wives that don’t necessarily ever get a grasp of the lifestyle that is called farming.  The posts I’ve read give advice and share what has helped their farm marriages.  I will state right now, after fifteen years as my farmer’s wife, I still struggle quite often.

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Today I wanted to specifically reach out to the ones that never speak of their struggles. The farm wives that love their husbands but feel like they are less than important or lost in some way.  I hope they find comfort in knowing they are not alone, that there are women that feel the same way. It’s okay to not always be strong and tough and it’s important for you to have a voice.

What can I do to reach those women who are married to farmers but yet never quite “get it”  (or even want to “get it” for that matter?)  I know many would say, “well they married knowing what they were getting into” or “suck it up and deal with it.”  But let’s be honest, that’s not very kind.

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Perhaps they looked, all those years ago through rose-colored glasses or felt a partnership was easy to come by or basically just romanticizing the farm life in those early years.  Whatever it was,  at this point I am not going to make them feel guilty for feeling less important to their spouse than some dirt in the ground or animals that need fed.

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I mean, who knows, the love and support they need may not be found while living in wide open beautiful spaces.  All while there are two or three littles running under foot or worse, an empty nest leaving only silence during those certain farming seasons.

Whatever the reason is that you are feeling there is a missing part, it’s okay to acknowledge it.  It’s okay to talk about it and it’s okay to want to feel worthy and loved. You matter. Your story matters.

I am no expert and I have nothing but what comes form my heart and mind via the keyboard.  I will offer this though. I can honestly say I get it.  I get that some days really suck as a farmer’s wife.  Some days have beautiful sunsets, dinner in the field with the kids clinging to their dad’s dirty jeans,  moments of feeling proud and love rolled together and some days end up lonely.  The fact of the matter is that you are a person that is of value and you do contribute to the farmer’s life whether they acknowledge it or not.

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I know that a stranger on the internet telling you that, isn’t what you want to hear.  You want that farmer to tell you, hold you, guide you, share with you, and perhaps make you feel like the woman he did all those years ago.  I hope you get glimpses of that even if it isn’t very often.

But start here.  Start with sharing how you feel  with someone that can relate.  I’m not here to judge or give much advice, but I can listen if that’s what you need.  Comment below or email me at farminggracehomemadetraditions@gmail.com. If we don’t connect, which is totally cool, I know a few other farm wives, I’m sure there is bound to be one that totally gets YOU!

My hope is that this post uplifted you to know you are not alone.  That it helped you to know that you can get through the season that is upon us!

May there be more sunsets in your future where your farmer is walking towards you,  not the tractor, and may you find peace with the future that each season brings.

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I’m a farm wife too,

Julie