Posted in 2018, family, marriage, Marriage Series

15 Years of Marriage (Uniquely Ours)

Look at those young folks… September 2002

Last month we celebrated 15 years of marriage.  I have always felt there are certain anniversaries that hold higher regard than others.  I guess I’d call them milestones!

Married couple 2003
April 12, 2003

Maybe I think 15 was monumental because we met and married later in life. 🙂

Wheat harvest

The 15 years flew by because we got through two teen girls in the home,  building a house while we both worked full time, the girl’s marriages, an addition of a third daughter in 2008  and now a total of five grandchildren to call family. 

Grandkids 2018
This is reality of trying to get a photo with them all. 🙂 Pure bliss I tell ya!

There was a great deal more that happened in those 15 years but those are a few of the most precious treasures!

Family Picture 2017
“Our People” Love them more than they will ever know!


Like most marriages we have had some pretty dark times but some pretty bright moments too.  Our marriage isn’t any more spectacular than anyone else’s but it is uniquely ours.  Just as I can not duplicate another farm wife, no one can have what Milton & I do.  I guess that is what marriage is about  sort of.  Making it yours and creating a combination with times of distress and hurt and sprinkled with love and respect.

Feb. 2018

When I witness Milton with one of our grandchildren it really does make my heart soar.  He helps our older children with construction needs on their own homes and that is truly a fatherly act.  The lessons he teaches our youngest daughter about nature, farming, and just stuff in general makes her one lucky girl. So glad I get to witness it!

Farmer and wife laughing
Best photos are the ones you didn’t know were coming.

I’m sure if he were a man of many words, verses few words, he would have some nice stuff to say about me as well after 15 years.  (At least I hope so! 🙂  But what is true and right is that we stay together and do what needs to be done for our family.  That we stop when the tempers flare and walk alone for just a short time, then come back to hold the hand of the other more gracefully.


Oh wait… I’m not done….  I wanted to note some things…..

Our milestone of an anniversary was spent visiting a town only a couple of hours from home.  There wasn’t a big trip or extravagant gifts not even a fancy hotel, just time alone.  We relaxed in a Comfort Inn, went hiking,  hit the movie theatre and art museum, a nice dinner of course, visited a bakery/donut shop for dessert, spent time talking, and working through some stuff.  Cause even after fifteen years, there’s still that to do on occasion.  Here’s to the rest of our lives!

15th anniversary collage


Posted in 2017, Julie's Journey, marriage, Uncategorized

Never. In A Kansas Field.

Case Combine Sunrise field

It was on this morning, in this field, next to a Case IH combine that it happened.

The embrace was one of magnititude.

The beautiful sunrise in the east, the weather with only a slight chill but yet lovely.  The task at hand hadn’t went as planned but that is how life sometimes goes.

Unplanned. Unscheduled. Not knowing what comes next.

And at that moment I decided to hug my farmer husband.  I squeezed him extra tight and as he squeezed me back I felt moved to whisper the following words in his ear.

“Thanks for not giving up on me.”

His reply without hesitation, I might add……


As my eyes began to fill with tears of joy I knew I was very loved.

He isn’t one for showing his affection or saying many things.  His timing with one word was something pretty remarkable. (for me at least)

It was the icing on my cake, the moment where life is really good, and the brownie with pecans in it!

It’s been a very rough road for me and I am not a very kind person when life deals me a large serving of yuck and muck.  So our relationship has taken some bumps, bruises, and rough patches the last few years.

But our relationship has been cultivated over the past fourteen years, just as the many crops this man has planted and harvested.  At times I get jealous of his farming and the love he has for it.  I probably will again in the future, but at least I can look back on this blog post and that picture and recall a moment in our lives where everything felt beautiful. And know that this man is capable of remarkable things in the field and in our life together.

In a soybean field, next to a combine, with the sunrise as the backdrop, my quiet man of a farmer sealed my heart with love with one word.  In essence he covered my wounds and healed the hurt.

If that isn’t romantic, I’m not sure what is!  Hollywood can’t beat that for this farmer’s wife.  A Kansas field works just fine! 🙂

Farmer and Wife 2017
August 2017 – He’s my Thor. 🙂 Family picture candid shot! See the farmer’s hat though!

And he takes all my mushy stuff and he just goes with it, but secretly I think he really likes it! 🙂

Until next time!