Posted in 2018, family, Photographs

1-2-3 Smile – Family Traditions

When I grew up there wasn’t much money. My father worked in a few different areas some were the oil fields, farming, and cattle feed lots.  My mother worked outside the home as well.  It was the 1970’s.  There were  three kids ahead of me,  I was the youngest.

Dad mom family pic


As I go through old photographs I find pictures of us together as a family.  From the funny colored ones to polaroid shots.  The year my Mom got a polaroid it was a big deal!  Most of them from my younger years are posed just so and children sitting correctly and looking forward.  Smiling when told too.

1971 family

I can see the paneling behind us and one of us sitting on Mom’s lap. We’re all dressed pretty decent for that era  and our hair fixed for sure! Which meant the girls slept with curlers in the night before and the one son, well his hair was slicked down for sure!  Everything looks picture perfect although most of our childhood wasn’t picture perfect.

My point is this.  There’s a family –  in that picture. Whether it be a dysfunctional one,  humorous one,  beat the crap out of you tomorrow,  hug you tonight one, it’s there. Documented.  Whatever the type or day it was,  a few people came together to capture a memory.

As I grew up I noticed that the family pictures started being taken by a professional.  Which meant in that day, Sears or perhaps JCPenneys.

famliy photos mom bob


Oh and my mother,when we had a family gathering,  you can bet there would be group shots taken.  As the number of grandchildren grew, there was a new set of photos to be taken with Grandma.

Looking back, I do wish we had more candid shots but I treasure these posed photos. See, my parents are both gone now.   I love looking back and sharing these treasures  with my siblings and children.

Most would say I have carried on the tradition that my mother ingrained in me from an early age. To take photos and be in the photos.

family july

I’m sure my son-in-law’s would much rather have it where we take less pictures but most of the time they give their mother-in-law just what she wants. And on a good day I get a really big smile!

When you look at this picture of my family you can see many things.

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I know I am very blessed to have 3 daughters,  6 grandchildren, with one in heaven, 2 son in laws, and a husband, to call family.  It may look picture perfect. We coordinated the clothes , smiling just right. We even made sure our hair and makeup was picture ready! And look, I channeled my Mom, but I didn’t sleep on curlers overnight! 🙂  Apparently she had more influence on me than I thought! 🙂

This picture is perfect to me but not for those reasons.  Mostly because to me even though we may be a family that at times,  drives each other nuts or hugs in a moment, possibly snarls at one another,  and even judges on occasion,  we still come together. We are still family.

So I hope I pass on the tradition to my girls, or maybe even inspire you!

Take the pictures. Be in the pictures. Take candid photos. Take pictures of the people that are sitting around your dinner table or lounging in your living room, the ones  cooking in your kitchen.

Taking the photos doesn’t mean you have to post on social media.  But if you do be sure to tag them and take a funny one so others can laugh WITH you!

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Photo credit Pam Weaver Photography

Then one day you can look at the pictures and probably remember a really good time or possibly a not so stellar moment. But more often than not, these images will become treasures.

Carrying on the tradition of pictures with grandkids!

I was inspired to write this post as I took my daily walk as the sun rose.  August is a different kind of month for me as both my parents passed away in August.  I think of them often, I look through photos and text my siblings so I can still feel a connection with them.  I’m grateful for the treasure of opportunity before me and the family that allows me to have my pictures.

Thanks for stopping by.


Posted in 2018, family, marriage, Marriage Series

15 Years of Marriage (Uniquely Ours)

Look at those young folks… September 2002

Last month we celebrated 15 years of marriage.  I have always felt there are certain anniversaries that hold higher regard than others.  I guess I’d call them milestones!

Married couple 2003
April 12, 2003

Maybe I think 15 was monumental because we met and married later in life. 🙂

Wheat harvest

The 15 years flew by because we got through two teen girls in the home,  building a house while we both worked full time, the girl’s marriages, an addition of a third daughter in 2008  and now a total of five grandchildren to call family. 

Grandkids 2018
This is reality of trying to get a photo with them all. 🙂 Pure bliss I tell ya!

There was a great deal more that happened in those 15 years but those are a few of the most precious treasures!

Family Picture 2017
“Our People” Love them more than they will ever know!


Like most marriages we have had some pretty dark times but some pretty bright moments too.  Our marriage isn’t any more spectacular than anyone else’s but it is uniquely ours.  Just as I can not duplicate another farm wife, no one can have what Milton & I do.  I guess that is what marriage is about  sort of.  Making it yours and creating a combination with times of distress and hurt and sprinkled with love and respect.

Feb. 2018

When I witness Milton with one of our grandchildren it really does make my heart soar.  He helps our older children with construction needs on their own homes and that is truly a fatherly act.  The lessons he teaches our youngest daughter about nature, farming, and just stuff in general makes her one lucky girl. So glad I get to witness it!

Farmer and wife laughing
Best photos are the ones you didn’t know were coming.

I’m sure if he were a man of many words, verses few words, he would have some nice stuff to say about me as well after 15 years.  (At least I hope so! 🙂  But what is true and right is that we stay together and do what needs to be done for our family.  That we stop when the tempers flare and walk alone for just a short time, then come back to hold the hand of the other more gracefully.


Oh wait… I’m not done….  I wanted to note some things…..

Our milestone of an anniversary was spent visiting a town only a couple of hours from home.  There wasn’t a big trip or extravagant gifts not even a fancy hotel, just time alone.  We relaxed in a Comfort Inn, went hiking,  hit the movie theatre and art museum, a nice dinner of course, visited a bakery/donut shop for dessert, spent time talking, and working through some stuff.  Cause even after fifteen years, there’s still that to do on occasion.  Here’s to the rest of our lives!

15th anniversary collage