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2018 Wheat Harvest #1

20180612_154134We began harvesting wheat on June 12th this year and as I type this post to this point it has went pretty well.  We didn’t plan on beginning so early  but that’s how farming goes.  You plan one thing and the opposite will happen.  The warm and windy days prior to the 12th made it so the wheat was ready to harvest sooner than later!

The first day Milton was able to harvest around 40 some acres on the field we call North of Charles.  That field we finished up on the 13th around 4:30 and headed to the field we call Disposal well.  Don’t you love the “names” we give our fields?   Some are named after landowners or where they are located from the farm. If you call it something else you could end up in a totally different location than where the combine is!  So pay attention!

I spent the first day not helping but the second day I left my town job early to weigh trucks at our home storage.  We fill our grain bins with the grain so we can pick when to sell it and haul to the elevator.  We farm within 5 miles of the farm so that is quite convenient for us.

We do crop share with some of our landowners so that grain is hauled to the grain elevator when it is harvested.  This takes longer obviously because there is a short drive but also the time to wait in line with the rest of those hauling grain!

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I totally didn’t plan well for this wheat harvest like I did in 2017.  I did buy meat and did a little menu options but didn’t prep ANY food.  I regret that now, but May was not my month personally!  The first night we had a wonderful one pot meal!  Roasted chicken & veggies then the second night it was tacos and rice!  Nothing fancy the longer harvest goes on! 🙂 Tonight will probably be take out or leftovers

By the end of our second day of wheat harvest 2018 we were able to cut around 140 acres I think.  Come Wednesday the third day my husband decided that he wasn’t ready to miss his daughter’s softball games.

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He climbed out of the combine, stopped harvesting, and headed five miles into town to watch her play.  Some day I know that she will really appreciate this effort on his part.  She is lucky to have a Dad that is active in her life!  He might miss the one Friday night but he will be there in spirit and my pics/videos!  We enjoyed the game and they won 20 to 5!

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More updates to come! To see the action as it unfolds be sure to follow us on our Instagram page (farminggrace) or Facebook page (Farminggracedaily) !  Thanks for stopping by!

Julie


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That Farm Wife That Doesn’t Get It

I’ve seen several posts on social media and blogs about farm wives and marriage and the experience of it. First,  I am so glad that they are out there and find them to be interesting and thought-provoking myself.  I’m a farm wife so I can relate to some of what they say and some not.

I also think being married is challenging enough but when you mix in farm life, the challenges seem to become ones of a daily grind that seem ever continuous year after year.

I suppose one could insert any form of occupation and marriage but unless you have lived the farm life, it really isn’t quite the same, in my own opinion.

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This was a happy day for this farm wife, but sometimes they are not so happy.

 

My thinking mind has me wondering about the farm wives that don’t necessarily ever get a grasp of the lifestyle that is called farming.  The posts I’ve read give advice and share what has helped their farm marriages.  I will state right now, after fifteen years as my farmer’s wife, I still struggle quite often.

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Today I wanted to specifically reach out to the ones that never speak of their struggles. The farm wives that love their husbands but feel like they are less than important or lost in some way.  I hope they find comfort in knowing they are not alone, that there are women that feel the same way. It’s okay to not always be strong and tough and it’s important for you to have a voice.

What can I do to reach those women who are married to farmers but yet never quite “get it”  (or even want to “get it” for that matter?)  I know many would say, “well they married knowing what they were getting into” or “suck it up and deal with it.”  But let’s be honest, that’s not very kind.

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Perhaps they looked, all those years ago through rose-colored glasses or felt a partnership was easy to come by or basically just romanticizing the farm life in those early years.  Whatever it was,  at this point I am not going to make them feel guilty for feeling less important to their spouse than some dirt in the ground or animals that need fed.

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I mean, who knows, the love and support they need may not be found while living in wide open beautiful spaces.  All while there are two or three littles running under foot or worse, an empty nest leaving only silence during those certain farming seasons.

Whatever the reason is that you are feeling there is a missing part, it’s okay to acknowledge it.  It’s okay to talk about it and it’s okay to want to feel worthy and loved. You matter. Your story matters.

I am no expert and I have nothing but what comes form my heart and mind via the keyboard.  I will offer this though. I can honestly say I get it.  I get that some days really suck as a farmer’s wife.  Some days have beautiful sunsets, dinner in the field with the kids clinging to their dad’s dirty jeans,  moments of feeling proud and love rolled together and some days end up lonely.  The fact of the matter is that you are a person that is of value and you do contribute to the farmer’s life whether they acknowledge it or not.

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I know that a stranger on the internet telling you that, isn’t what you want to hear.  You want that farmer to tell you, hold you, guide you, share with you, and perhaps make you feel like the woman he did all those years ago.  I hope you get glimpses of that even if it isn’t very often.

But start here.  Start with sharing how you feel  with someone that can relate.  I’m not here to judge or give much advice, but I can listen if that’s what you need.  Comment below or email me at farminggracehomemadetraditions@gmail.com. If we don’t connect, which is totally cool, I know a few other farm wives, I’m sure there is bound to be one that totally gets YOU!

My hope is that this post uplifted you to know you are not alone.  That it helped you to know that you can get through the season that is upon us!

May there be more sunsets in your future where your farmer is walking towards you,  not the tractor, and may you find peace with the future that each season brings.

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I’m a farm wife too,

Julie